I might have mentioned before that one of the hardest things about being a newlywed is learning to live together. It forces you to realize some personality traits you didn't know existed. One of my goals in making this committment of marriage is to not be a NAG!!! Here are a couple of definitions to get our brain waves flowing so that we can talk about nagging (I used the very reliable source known as "Dictionary" on my iPhone):
- nag (noun)- someone (especially a woman) who annoys people by constantly finding fault; an old or overworked horse
- fault (noun)- a wrong action attributable to bad judgement or ignorance or inattention
Any thoughts on a solution to keep us from nagging? I read one article that said we should start "sharing our feelings" instead of nagging...I have a feeling that if it's our significant others we are nagging at, sharing our feelings isn't a better solution! I need different advice and ideas...
One of the things I learned from my counseler (NO...I did not go to counseling for being an excessive nagger) is to avoid saying phrases like: "you always..." and "you never..."
The other day, instead of nagging verbally, I nagged in a note! LOL. My amazing husband, who I love with all my heart, had three empty bottles in the shower (one shampoo and two body washes). I went to the store and bought him some new stuff and put it by the bathroom sink with a sweet note that said something along the lines of: "I bought you some new shampoo and body wash. You can go ahead and throw away the empty ones in the shower. Heart Lisa"
So...people...how should we handle nagging, what are ways to avoid it, etc. Let me know your thoughts!